After much stuffing around with ssl.conf and various other configs, i finally got virtual hosts to work..

I kept getting the error

[error] VirtualHost _default_:443 -- mixing * ports and non-* ports with a NameVirtualHost address is not supported, proceeding with undefined results

there seems to be a heap of people out there getting this error, so here is my solution, which works for me......

In the end I didnt need to touch the ssl.conf file, just leave that as is.

in your httpd.conf do the following.
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NameVirtualHost *:80
NameVirtualHost *:433

<VirtualHost _default_:80>
ServerAdmin webmaster@your-server.com
DocumentRoot /var/www/html
ServerName li-*.member.linode.com
ErrorLog /var/www/html/virtual/logs/error_log
CustomLog /var/www/html/virtual/logs/access_log common
</VirtualHost>


<VirtualHost *:80>
ServerAdmin webmaster@your-server.com
DocumentRoot /var/www/html/virtual/site1/html
ServerName anotherdomain.com
ServerAlias *.anotherdomain.com anotherdomain.com
ErrorLog /var/www/html/virtual/site1/logs/error_log
CustomLog /var/www/html/virtual/site1/logs/access_log common
</VirtualHost>
=======>8========

Hope it helps someone...

I just use webmin (http://www.webmin.com) which can handle apache virtual servers fine, if you install the apache module.