Thanx, i'll give that a go.
I dont know if this is real but here:
http://www.experts-exchange.com/OS/Linux/Q_21634652.html
At the bottom i see that someone might have what i am looking for:
They have a top or some sort of process list then they have the site and script used. Is this real?
PID USER PRI NI SIZE RSS SHARE STAT %CPU %MEM TIME CPU COMMAND
12950 apache 22 0 16992 16M 7428 D 48.6 0.4 0:07 0 httpd
12912 apache 22 0 16240 15M 7436 S 47.3 0.4 0:07 0 httpd
86-0 12950 0/4/4 _ 7.24 5 0 0.0 0.01 0.01 X.X.X.X webmail.primecare.org GET /src/left_main.php HTTP/1.1
48-0 12912 0/4/4 _ 7.32 5 0 0.0 0.01 0.01 X.X.X.X webmail.primecare.org GET /src/left_main.php HTTP/1.1