Find source of memory issues

There are several ways to run Apache (prefork, worker, event) and several ways to run PHP (which is one of the likely reasons for your memory problems). You have not given any detail about your particular setup, so we can only guess.

In either case, if you are running Apache >= 2.4, I recommend that you use php-fpm for PHP (Debian/Ubuntu package name "php5-fpm").

> You have not given any detail about your particular setup I'm happy to provide any info you need, just tell me what and how :)

Ok, I found http://serverfault.com/a/663878/293911 and my Apache is setup as 'prefork'. It's also running version 'Apache/2.4.7 (Ubuntu)'

Considering http://serverfault.com/a/383634/293911 should I set it up as 'event' instead?

I can't work out what the PHP setup options are or which I'm running…

> I can't work out what the PHP setup options are or which I'm running…

Create a file called "info.php" in the root of your web server containing this line:

Then visit the address http://example.com/info.php where example.com is your site address.

Your server will probably say "Server API: Apache 2.0 Handler" which means you are using mod-php.

This is the very short recipe to switch to php-fpm on Debian, I think it will work in Ubuntu too:

apt-get install apache2 php5-fpm
a2enmod proxy
a2enmod proxy_fcgi
nano /etc/apache2/sites-available/000-default.conf

Insert this in appropriate place:

  <filesmatch \.php$="">SetHandler "proxy:unix:/var/run/php5-fpm.sock|fcgi://localhost/"</filesmatch> 
  DirectoryIndex index.php index.html index.htm

then restart apache:

service apache2 restart

Yes, I'm using 'Server API: Apache 2.0 Handler'. I'll look into switching to php-fpm, thanks.