This is a Linode 360 running Ubuntu 8.04, Apache 2 using the prefork MPM, and a PunBB forum:
Code:
$ free -m
total used free shared buffers cached
Mem: 360 338 21 0 6 246
-/+ buffers/cache: 85 274
Swap: 255 0 255
MySQL is probably the biggest chunk out of that 85MB. The system also runs sshd and Postfix, but these contribute minimally to memory usage. I don't think I've ever seen swap get touched.
Of course, your results may vary based on differences between phpBB and PunBB and on traffic load (this server sees ~10,000 pageviews/day and ~45,000 raw hits/day).