trisager wrote:
@gparent On the off chance that you are not simply trolling, I'd be very interested in understanding your email server setup.
If you know of a way to configure a real-world, useful mail server that can guarantee that not a single spam or phishing message is ever transmitted, I want to know how you do it

I'm not trolling. A lot of russian hosts really do not care about spam.
As for my experience, I can only speak about relaying it and how other providers seem to handle it because I do not let my users forward to emails they do not own. Have you used Gmail? To setup a relay there, you need to confirm that you are the owner of the receiving email address. Perhaps I'm not understanding your setup or your issue. Is it impossible for you to know where you're going to end up forwarding mail? Because that's the configuration weakness that spammers use to work so efficiently.
I don't think it's a knee-jerk reaction to avoid an entire net block to be banned from sending mail. In other situations, spamcop could've taken action and prevented dozens of servers from working correctly just because one person is sending/relaying bad mail.